November 13th, 2004
I Almost Cut My Hair
I believe I’ve mentioned The Deal. The first day I started talking with Spencer about side-effects of chemotherapy, we made a deal that I would shave my head after his hair started falling out before he was totally bald. Once his hair started falling out, I posted an email to the mailing list for my Men’s Group. Franklin Kalk volunteered himself and his son Sam to come over, cut my hair short, shave my head bald, and videotape the entire experience. Monday was a tiring day for Spencer, so we scheduled if for Tuesday afternoon.
Franklin and Sam arrived late in the afternoon with all of the necessary supplies: smock to keep hair off of me, hair trimmer with various length attachements, razor with four blades,and awesome “Kiss My Face” shaving cream. Sam acted as videographer and I have one hour of videotape to edit down sometime when I have a few hours free and learn iMovie enough to do some simple edits. We began by trimming down with a number 4 blade, and then then went with the “blending” blade (which is about peach fuzz length). So far, it was just like a normal haircut for me since I’ve gone down to a number 2 blade often in the summer. Now it was time for the first pass with the razor. There are two spots on my head where the grain of my hair swirls around 360 degrees in less than an inch. These were the hardest spots and Franklin charged double or triple his usual rate for those, but we cleared them without incident.
I must say I liked the feeling of having my head shaved. Mostly it feels like having it very short. On Wednesday, I went to the lunch for my Men’s Group and shared status about Spencer. Another fellow in the group used to have shoulder length hair and just got it cut to medium length. I told him my change from short to bald was much smaller in terms of how it feels than his change was. For maintenance, I’m shaving every other day with my Braun electric razor and putting on skin lotion from Burt’s Bees to keep my skin oh so soft and supple.

Spencer’s hair continues to come out in clumps. He had it cut with a number 3 blade on Monday and wants to just let it fall out from here. We’ve found a use for Jacob’s receiving blankets as pillow covers for Spencer. We put a fresh one on each night and in the morning dump the hair into the trash and wash the blanket. He’s also wearing a John Wayne Cancer Foundation bandana (that we got at the Peloton Appreciation Dinner for the 2004 Ride for the Roses) tied over his head at night. He reports this makes it more comfortable since it prevents tugging on his hair.
My current guess is that he’ll be pretty much bald by the middle of this week. His last dose of Vincristine on Friday seemed to cause more hair loss along with making him pretty tired.
CBC for Friday:
Hemoglogin: about 8
Platelets: 148,000 – yay!
ANC: 1300 – yay!!!

November 16th, 2004 at 6:22 pm
Rob & Spencer,
Jack just got a #2 buzz, so we have some cousin/nephew solidarity! We are thinking of you all so much, and can’t wait to see you at Thanksgiving.
Karen & the gang
May 24th, 2005 at 10:33 am
[...] Friends rallied around us immediately, helping with child care and transportation for Rachel (who is currently not able to drive). I was able to stay in the hospital with Spencer for the four days he was there to begin his induction therapy. I made two deals with Spencer. The first deal was that I would shave my head when his hair began to fall out from chemotherapy. This happened on November 9. The second deal was that we would ride the 25 mile route in the Ride for the Roses together in 2005 and I would help Spencer raise enough money to get him into the private ride with Lance Armstrong. Spencer is preparing for a career as a diplomat and views everything as a negotiation, and no negotiation is ever fully closed. He amended the shaving agreement to include me staying bald until his hair grows fully back. He amended the Ride for the Roses agreement to include the 40 mile ride (“if my butt doesn’t hurt and we stop at every rest stop”) and raising enough money for the Peloton Project Yellow Jersey award (they raised the amount for this award to $25,000 of fundraising). [...]